Be Kind And It Will Come Back


You have nothing to lose being kind to others.   Did you know being kind is free? Giving Hugs are free?  Sending love is free?  Recently a dear male friend of mine, let’s call him Joe, told me he is done with his girlfriend.  HE walked out on her he tells me.  My response to him was, “Well…you must feel proud…”

He said, “I am!  I’m in control. And I”m not taking that from her anymore…”

I said, “Taking what?”

“How she treats me?”

“How does she treat you?”

He paused for a second and said, “Pretty good…  I just don’t like how she needs other guys to make her feel better about herself.”

“What other guys?”

“I don’t know…there always seems to be a guy texting her checking in to see how she is and she flirts back with them.  It’s all to make herself feel better.  It’s ridiculous.”

“Does she want those other guys?”

Again he thought for a moment before speaking, “No…”

“Does she feel safe with YOU?  Meaning, have you offered her marriage, or a long term relationship, or a safe committed relationship?”‘


“Yet you expect her to stop talking to other guys and put all her eggs in your basket hoping for something more?”

it was at this point he looked and me and I couldn’t help myself.  I started to laugh.  He joined me.  Yes.  It’s silly once you break it down.  It’s EGO.  It’s pride.  And it’s all STUPID.

If you love someone, love them.  Do not put tags or restrictions or labels or ‘if you do this, then I’ll do that…”  Just love.  Just accept  Then be the BEST YOU that you can be and rest assured…all WILL be fantastic!

Quit Bitching and Expecting more than what you can give.  Just love.  Just love.  Just love. 

Ask yourself:
“Did I come to earth to take or to give?”

It seems so simple and so easy to understand…but we forget and we suddenly feel needy and want something we aren’t getting.  But can you control what others give you?  Nope.  The only thing you can control is YOU.  You can’t control other people.  Ever.  Trying to even think about controlling what others do or think will lead to endless disappointment. And really…who wants that?  So don’t.  Stop worrying about anything or anyone but YOU.  What makes YOU great?  Do that. Be that.

Just be kind.

Just love.

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Laurie McDermott is a Writer, Marriage Coach, Speaker at women events and conferences and posts regularly on She also is a recurring guest on many radio & TV shows. Book her here!