Your Core Values are the only thing that will keep you sane when faced with an affair or a man who makes you feel like you are the one going crazy.
For example…if you believe in the Core Value of “honesty” and your husband hasn’t been honest with you…that’s nothing to make excuses for…it’s simply something you value and right now, he doesn’t. But if Honesty matters to you, then hold strong and continue to be honest yourself, because Honesty is your Core Value.
Whatever Core Values you hold dear, that is what you are to keep and continue to believe in. Simply knowing your value is Honesty will help you stay steady and make you feel strong in your decision. That shouldn’t mean you hold your Core Values over someone’s head or even punish them for what they believe or don’t believe.
It just means You know who You are and what You believe in. That this is what is important to you. And if your partner wants to be a part of your life he needs to understand and or share this value with you (and he may still value it…it just may be a time he’s struggling…) And if you hold strong…he will see that and either join and fall away.
What are your Core Values?
Below is a list of Core Values…Go thru them now and pick out only 5. Only 5. Cause that’s the only way to stay focused.
Then after you are done, take those 5 and write them out on a piece of paper and put them on your screen on your phone, next to your work phone, your computer or on your mirror in your bathroom. Anywhere you LOOK and see all the time so you can be reminded of these Core Values whenever you are feeling sad, weak or depressed or even challenged.
- Inner Harmony
- Meaningful Work
Pick only 5. Post them. Several places. Hold tight. Your partner will see and respect that these values are dear to you. But again don’t brag or flaunt these values, just act on them. Actions speak louder than words.