How To Have Patience When Your Midlife Crisis Husband is Cheating On You

How To Have Patience When Your Midlife Crisis Husband is Cheating On You is tough.

When a husband is walking out the door and he is wanting to leave you?  You will not be thinking this at the moment but trust me: Patience Matters More than ever.

Yet that doesn’t mean you can’t do patience any moment you can!

I must pull patience out of my ass at least 10 times a day. Cause I fall into the “impatient” category of humans.

This is a skill I have lacked and work on daily.

So last year I gave a speech at a church and when I noticed some of my student wives were getting “off” on their patience too, I pulled out the old speech and delivered it to a Group Class (membership only – but I did pull a piece of it for YouTube cause it is THAT good!)

Here is my list of 10 Powerful benefits of why being patient in your marriage (and relationships if he’s not home) helps you as a human! (and that does matter! Even in your marriage!!! Even if he’s not home right now!)

Let’s be clear:
Patience in marriage is NOT about staying quiet or tolerating pain; it’s about giving time and space and room. Through time, calm, and understanding, patience is one of your biggest tools.

1. When you are Patience – you can Communicate more effectively.

For those who have recorded calls with me, go back to the first calls, it’s a race! 
Today, you are different. For new people? You may hear one or two today….
NEVER had anyone RUSH and get their husband home quicker.
We want to Slow down and remember our biggest communication tool is NOT talking.  It’s silence. And listening. It’s our Body language. Listen with intention, hear what your spouse says. Pause before you respond..

2. When you have Patience you open a Door to Deep Emotional Connections

Have you ever sat with someone who was listening and had patience.
It’s awkward. But you trust them. You want to talk to them. They draw you in!

3. Having Patience STOPS Little fights or Conflicts From Growing

We humans love to respond quickly. When your husband or your mother-in-law says something that is offensive, we are so quick to react, either with words or a face. HAHA. That gets us in trouble. Yet having Patience gives us time and the power to hit pause before reacting. By “pausing” instead of jumping, you have space to remember (maybe things I’ve said, “ohh….prevent small problems from becoming big divides in your marriage.)

4. Practicing Patience is like building a Muscle inside ourselves while husband is still gone during a “Tough” Season.

Most of us are a little late sometimes. Me too. And when others were late, I let them have it!  Patience was the worst for me. I’m a NOW a person who waits calmly.  Who knew!?
And Betrayal, disconnection, cheating: none of it gets fixed over night. We must stay calm and walk through the mess. Many of us forgot about Patience. Having patience right now anyway, even though it feels stupid: why do I need patience when he’s off having fun and just gone. Well….it will teach you how to be resilient, to stay steady, rebuild trust, and hold on to hope even when it’s hard or not there.

5. Patience is a response. We Respond Instead of React.

When your emotions peak to fight or flight, you get anxiety and fear boils, patience acts like a shield. It helps you pause before saying something you’ll regret, keeping communication kind and grounded.

6. Having Patience Teaches us that we are brilliant! (YES!) WE are in charge! We can control ourselves!

I’ve got nothing to add here!! HAHAHA

7. Having patience teaches us that we are not perfect.

Because I have to have patience and I suck at it, that means I’m not perfect. And if no one is perfect, especially me, then we have to have patience with our own self and that is humbling.  Having /practicing Patience helps you focus on our progress, our flaws, which nurtures acceptance and long-term connection.

8. Have patience Opens the Door to Forgiveness!

I love forgiveness!! Cause if we are not perfect, then we screwed things up that need forgiveness from someone. And Forgiveness doesn’t happen overnight. Patience allows genuine feelings of love and acceptance to flow. And guess what??? Forgiveness follows fast!

9. Patience manages Expectations.

As you grow, you will notice others are not patience and your patience for them being not patient means that you have to adjust expectations of your spouse or others. How’s that for a thought or mouthful!?

We then appreciate our spouse for who they’re becoming, not who they used to be. We are always learning and growing! ALWAYS!  If you are my student you are!

10. Practicing Patience Creates Emotional Safety to Keep Unconditional Love Growing!

When you are Patient you are saying to others a trust factor: “You are safe to be yourself.”
True love matures with time. Patience helps you fall in love again and again, not because it’s perfect, but because you’ve learned how to let it come and grow!

Patience brings your spouse home and keeps you together!  So remember when your spouse is on his way back, Healing doesn’t happen in a snap! Every calm response, every kind reaction, and every word of compassion will bring you closer.

Saving your marriage through patience is not about waiting for change to happen in HIM. It’s about creating it in YOU! Through Kindness, calmness, unconditional love, understanding and grace.

WATCH:

YEAH!  Here is a video for you to watch from YOUTUBE! It’s like this story exactly! only funnier cause you can see me!