Best Books & Movies List To Survive His MidLife Crisis and Bring Him Home

You are Welcome!!! Here’s the MASSIVE LIST!!!

The MOST on-going GREATEST LIST of Surviving Your husband’s MLC (Midlife Crisis) Books, Movies, TV Shows, during Your Husband or Wife, Son or Daughter, Sister, Brother, Cousin or Friend’s Midlife Crisis.

Some of the below may have two links. One for the item/book and one for a video on why I want you to watch it. Your time is precious – I will not lead you to waste it. Quite the opposite. I want you to KNOW everything quick!! Because I wanted that when I was where you were! xo

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MUST GET BOOKS:

My Grateful Book:  Gotta Get this. I wrote it. Took 2 years. The best guide for getting through this time. Keep all your records in one place!

Signs:  You know I do not believe in Terro cards and all the psychic stuff, however, this book is EXCELLENT!  This is for an AUDIO book!! Get the audio book!!  So much better to hear her voice!  If you want the paperback book click here.
Why Read? It will give you comfort and help you feel better knowing we are not alone!

The Queens Code:  OMG! Worth EVERY SINGLE penny! 
Why Buy?  1 reason: Because you trust me. And because I said to buy it.  Best book during his/her mess EVER. Ever. I don’t know author Alison Armstrong  (yet) but when I read the Queens Code – chapter 3 brought me to tears for 3 days. I have not been the same since! Oh my mistakes!! UGH! 

The Amazing Development of Men:  By my girl!  Alison Armstrong.  

Keys To The Kingdom:  Same girl! Alison Armstrong!  She’s the best – get all her books – STUDY!!! LEARN!!!! BOOM!  The more you know!!! 

The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce:  EXCELLENT!!!  Mind blowing!! Get this.
Why Buy?  It is that good.  Audio Version – is good but paper is better to take notes.

The Way Home:  TRUE story of homecoming! Lindsay Doss Destroyed her home and her life. All for what? Chilling epic story of her way home!  And her mom wrote a book that I put below!
Why Buy?  Learn how your hubby/wife feels!

Watching The Road:  TRUE story!!! The Mother of Lindsay (above The way Home) writes this book!!  About watching her daughter and the mess she was in.  Could it get any better!?
Why Buy?  She knows how you feel but takes a stronger approach so you know why you feel that way!

Healing from Infidelity: Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair:  Michelle Weiner-Davis was around when I was going through this. She had “pieces” of MLC that was good information. Not a lot, but some good stuff. Information is good.  While this is not about Midlife Crisis, it is about you and your feelings. 
Why Buy?  Give you extra tools to understand and get ready when he comes home.

How to Talk to a Man and Feel Heard: 9 Mistakes Women Need To Avoid: I interviewed Sue (author) on my (click here to watch/listen) podcast! She’s GREAT and this book is well worth the time!
Why Buy? See my interview with her. She wanted to leave and she learned!

Sex on the First Date: A Story of a Broken Beginning to a Radically Transformed Marriage: This is proof. A couple’s story. They start out crappy and hell breaks loose.  They facing infidelity and other dark secrets,
Why Buy? Hope and healing and the truth. 

Never Split The Difference: A plus game changer!! Tools to talk to your spouse!! A former FBI international hostage negotiator has new field-tested language approach to high-stakes negotiations – whether in the boardroom or at home.
Why Buy? Because you want to know how to communicate like a Genius.

The Bait of Satan:   How NOT to get Offended!!! True book exposes one of the most deceptive snares Satan uses to get believers out of the will of God–offense.
Why Buy? It will change your life.

The Diary of an American Exorcist:  True store of Exorcist Msgr. Stephen Rossetti and a very active caseload of demonic possessions, and in each case two vivid lessons consistently emerge.
Why Buy?  You see the truth happening to YOUR family.

An Exorcist Tells His Story:  Fr Amorth, renowned exorcist of Rome, tells of his many experiences in his ministry as an exorcist doing battle with Satan to relieve the great suffering of people in the grip of evil.
Why Buy?  Learn truth of the eyes.

Man’s Search for Meaning: True Story of how Doctor Viktor E. Frankl survived the Holocaust and wrote this novel about losing everything. Everything was stolen from him: family, friends, job, money, yet no one can steal your hope.  
**Great book to suggest to him AFTER he comes home!

Yes to Life, In Spite of Everything: Viktor E. Frankl– First time published in English. Frankl’s words – now after coronavirus pandemic, social isolation, and our crazy uncertain world – just like in 1946. He says “Live as if you were living for the second time,” and that every crisis contains opportunity. Despite the unspeakable horrors of the camps, Frankl learned strength from fellow inmates that it is always possible to “Say YES to Life”—A magical, profound and timeless lesson for us all.
**Great book to suggest to him AFTER he comes home!

Don’t Divorce: Powerful Arguments for Saving and Revitalizing Your Marriage: Dr. Medved (I do a monthly Webinar with her!) will show why you should save—and revitalize—your marriage. She expertly unmasks the threats to marriage, including hookup apps that promise non-committal sex, and legions of professionals who are financially invested in your divorce. She punctures one-by-one the arguments in favor of divorce, proving that “the good divorce” is a myth.

The Bait of Satan: Living Free from the Daily Trap of Offense:  Do you get offended easily? This is for you!  Being offended keeps us away from those we love!

Forgiving What You Can’t Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again:  Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today.

Unlearn Your Pain:  How we can use our minds to stop pain and other issues. I am a HUGE believe in our minds and how it serves us or screws us up!  
Why Buy? Mind control is our world.

The Life changing Magic of Tidying Up:  Changed my life when my husband was gone. I got to take control of our home. And that served me so well…AND made him see me differently when he opened a CLEAN drawer.  Crazy. So good!
Why Buy? Learn a new skill and change YOU.  That’s what we are doing!

The Power of Patience:   When I went through this I was all about: NOW!!! NOW!!! NOW!!!  This book calmed me and showed me that “my own self being patient” was like GOLD.  Whoa!
Why Buy? If you have trouble with patience, this is for you!

Author: Andrew G Marshall (Another MLC Genius!):

I Love You But I’m Not In Love with you:   Andrew G Marshall is on my podcast and gives a wonderful interview on all he’s learned working with men and women who have struggled with this topic.

It’s NOT a Midlife Crisis It’s an Opportunity: How to be Forty-or Fifty-Something Without Going Off the Rails:  I could have written this but Andrew did.  Listen to my podcast here.

How Can I Ever Trust You Again?  A Statement I hear Daily. Many times. 

Can We Start Again Please?
(Twenty questions to fall back in love). Andrew again. Watch podcast here.

I Love You But… You Always Put Me Last: Why the Kids-First Approach to Parenting Is Hurting Your Marriage

What is Love?: 50 Questions About How to Find, Keep, and Rediscover it

Wake Up and Change Your Life: How to Survive a Crisis and be Stronger, Wiser, and Happier

Learn to Love Yourself Enough: 7 Steps to Improving Your Self-Esteem and Your Relationships

Have the Sex You Want: A Couple’s Guide to Getting Back the Spark

My Husband Doesn’t Love Me and He’s Texting Someone Else:  Andrew’s other book.  I don’t need to add anything.

My Wife Doesn’t Love Me Anymore: The Love Coach Guide to Winning Her Back:  For men looking to get her home.

Andrew’s Website  &  Andrews Podcast

Andrew’s FREE guide: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things 

MOVIES TO SEE

Dr Pat Video:  RARE CLIP!!  This is not a movie – it’s a fantastic 1 hour and 20 mins of a Class that I drove 45 mins to go see in 2013 and 2014 to go see!  With Dr. Pat! Listen closely! She was a relationship expert and was wild with her mouth!   Today she is over 90 and no longer teaching!  See if you can tell which person is me almost toward the end!  Back then I was just like you!

FireProof:  Wife cheats, husband grows. Incredible story.
Why Watch?  You will learn so much.

The Blind:  True Story. Way before Phil Robertson (Duck Dynasty) became famous he had long-time demons brewing inside that he had to destroy. 
Why Watch? Incredible! MLC in action.  Crazy.  Also my dear friend who lives 3 blocks from me just told me her son is in the film!! He plays the main character when he was a kid. She told me she was out of town a few years ago, but she never said why.  In fact when she heard I knew and loved the film, she was confused. I guess I can’t be mad at her for not telling me about her son, when I don’t tell her what I do when I work 80 hours a week!

War Room: Religious Story of a woman struggle to maintain her hope for her husband who is cheating.

This Is War:  30 Life changing prayers to bring him home.

Elf:  Oh man, oh man.  If you are on my videos you know the lessons I teach from this movie and other Christmas movies and other ELF characters!  “Just Elf It!” Life changes quick when you live like a happy Elf who believes in Christmas every single day: “JUST ELF IT!”
Why Watch?  Trust me! “Just Elf It” will become your lifeline to any stressors in your life!!

Scrooge:  Yes, we’ve seen this movie 10,000 times, but this one is real and impactful. Plus it has characters you like. I like how the 3 ghosts help him change.  That’s what we want for your man.
Why Watch?  Watch “Hope” in 2 hours that people do change.

The Family Man: CHRISTMAS MOVIE With Nicholas Cage.
Why Watch it? It’s one of my favorites. GOLD!!! 

The Founder:
Michael Keaton stars in the True Story of How McDonalds found success.
Why Watch? Watch the first wife, Laura Dern. Study her mistakes when he gets “dreamy” of his future. Do not do that!

The Other Woman:
Cameron Diaz – so so good. I want you to watch the first scene.  That’s what matters here. BIG learning!
Why Watch? Funny, smart and learn what NOT to do.

The Bucket List:  Jack Nicholas stars is a man who wants to see it all before he dies. There are many lines in here that men in MLC will say over and over.  
Why Watch?  It has 5 stars and watching men who are old reminds of us where us of what is really coming. You hubby WILL look like that.

Spielberg (2017):  Director Steven Spielberg’s mom “played” with Steven’s Dad’s best friend and went through an MLC?  Years later he learns his Dad took the fall for his mom. And that’s when I shout: HERO! Today she reflects back on her poor selfish decision and is now with Stevens dad. Always a big fan of his movies and I love true stories, I now love Steven Spielberg even more knowing he had such an incredible dad. See the Drama story in The Fableman’s.
Why Watch? See how not to behave as a parent.

The Boy In the Stripped Pajamas:  Just really, really good. 
Why Watch?  Cause it’s really, really, really good.

Miracles from Heaven:  True Story. If you know where we are going….
Why Watch?  When we believe…we don’t take anything for granted! 

Heaven is For Real: True Story. They made a book and a movie. And the kid was on Oprah. AND the photo of Jesus they saw is on my desk and the story of that Jesus & why the photo matters is here.
Why Watch?  You will believe in life after death.  And if you believe and know where you are going, this short life her starts to look easier to handle!

Courageous:  Not going to give you details. A whole bunch of families and life to love and learn.
Why Watch?  There are things that happen when you have a community on your team.

 

The Four Agreements: the Four Agreements are essentially a code of conduct based on Toltec teachings by which to live your life. They include Be Impeccable With Your Word, Don’t Take Anything Personally, Don’t Make Assumptions, and Always Do Your Best. FANTASTIC BOOK – teach your kids!

 Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up: Marriage Rules offers new relationship advice to age-old problems. Learn this before he comes home! This is school.  Don’t stop learning!

The Purpose Driven Life:   If you don’t know where you are going and why you are here….you have 0.  The Purpose Driven Life will help you see the big picture, giving you a fresh perspective on the way that the pieces of your life fit together. 

The Sounds of Freedom:
Part of the Angel Network.  True story of a father who helps another family. **Watch this when he comes home.
Why Watch?  To see how it works when ONE person takes on something no one else believes is possible!!  That’s YOU!

I See You: Oh wow. Helen Hunt and a crazy story line. Not what you expect at all. But the movie starts about an affair and you have NO idea.  
Why Watch?  It’s a good movie with a twist you won’t expect about love and marriage. Plus it is something you can watch with the hubby and kids and they will have no clue!

The Son:  Huge Jackman is a terrible dad and this is what happens when you leave your wife and pick up another girl.
Why Watch:  Lessons learned.

Maybe I Do:  Richard Gere, Susan Sarandon and 4 more celebs in a movie about cheating and lies.
Why Watch?  Marriage at its rocky parts and the stupid things couples do. Plus sit is Fun and Interesting. Watch it with him! All good!

Terms Of Endearment:
Incredible story of choices.  Watch the relationships. And see where their choices take them.
Why Watch? There is a scene when Shirley MacLaine is in the hospital with her sick daughter. She comes out pouring and yelling, ‘My daughter needs her shot!!!” That’s you in fighting for your family. We ALL need an advocate.  Let you be that advocate for every one you know.  If you don’t – who will?

God:

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